When Pride Divides Godly People | Judges 12

Pride can split a marriage, fracture a friendship, and divide a church—just like it did to Israel in Judges 12. Summary In Judges 12, pride sparks a civil war within Israel. The Ephraimites feel overlooked, Jephthah refuses to humble himself, and 42,000 brothers die—not from an enemy nation, but from division among God’s people. This passage reminds us that pride isn’t just petty—it destroys relationships, churches, and communities unless we choose humility and fight the real enemy together. Reflection & Small Group Discussion Questions 1. When was the last time pride turned a minor disagreement into a significant conflict in your life? 2. Why do you think pride feels so natural to us when we feel overlooked or offended? 3. In what ways is pride often just insecurity in disguise? 4. How does doubling down on pride escalate conflict rather than resolve it? 5. What’s one area where you need to give a “soft answer” instead of firing back (Prov. 15:1)? 6. Why is it important to remember who the real enemy is when conflict arises? 7. How has pride hurt a family, friendship, or church community you’ve been part of? 8. What does it look like in practical terms to “be the first to say I’m sorry”? 9. How does Jesus’ humility—even to the cross—redefine how we should handle relational conflict? 10. What step could you take this week to be a peacemaker in your relationships (Matt. 5:9)? Read more about PROJECT23 👉🏼 https://beresolute.org/project23/ Join this channel to get access to the perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMTXiJbuAVrF2hTJgnYK5qw/join Check out all Vince Miller's videos and audios for small groups at https://beresolute.org/ Get Vince's most widely read resource, The Daily Devotional, at https://beresolute.org/mdd Check out more ALL IN products like the one Vince is wearing at: https://beresolute.org/product-category/all-in-hats/ Connect with Vince socially: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/millervince INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/vinceleemiller LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vincemiller TWITTER: https://twitter.com/vinceleemiller