🔴 Can God Just Change My Thoughts? | The Get Over it Mentality | Frustrated with God

In our Wednesday Live, Melissa and I take your questions that address struggles like Christian perfectionism, religious OCD, intrusive thoughts, emotional pain from the past, financial anxiety, and more—all through a biblical, grace-filled lens. Christian Perfectionism & the Healing Journey - What does the Bible really mean by “be perfect”? - How do you break free from “just right, but never enough” thinking? - How can you embrace a journey mindset without falling into a victim mindset? “Why Won’t God Change My Thoughts?” - Victim Mentality, Self-Pity, and Fear - What does it look like to stop serving fear as your “boss”? - How do you draw a line in the sand and say, “I’m not a victim anymore”? - How do you keep walking when your feelings don’t instantly change? “Get Over It” Mentality vs Welcoming Healing - How do you respond when a spouse, parent, or adult child says, - “Just get over it” about your past or your trauma? - Is revisiting your past a lack of faith, or can it be part of grace and healing? - How do denial and shame keep families from ever really talking and healing? Lent, Fasting, and Religious OCD - Do I have to do Lent? Is it wrong if I don’t? - When do fasting and “giving something up for God” become compulsive and driven by fear? - How should people with religious OCD or eating disorders think about fasting? Compulsive Prayer & Scrupulosity - When do prayer and Bible reading cross the line from healthy habits into oppressive ritual? - How can you tell when you’re praying out of fear, pressure, or “or else” thinking? “Can I Trust This Teacher?” (OCD & Discernment) - What if I obsess over whether I can trust a pastor, author, or content creator 100%? - How do I develop my own convictions without endless checking, testing, and doubt? Financial Anxiety, Engagement, and Real-Life Pressure - We’re engaged, broke, and scared—now what? - What does trusting God’s provision look like when income is low and life is expensive? - How can couples walk through financial hardship without falling apart emotionally? Unanswered Prayers and “God Is Silent” - Is any prayer truly “unanswered”? - What do I do when what I prayed for doesn’t happen? - Is God really silent—or are my expectations of how He should answer off? Intrusive Thoughts, Criticism, and a “Hard Heart” - If I constantly have critical thoughts about people, does that mean my heart is hard? - How does perfectionism twist what a “soft heart” should look like? “God Told Me To…” or Just an Obsessive Thought? - Discerning the contrarian, or grandiose impulses ❓Submit a Question: https://markdejesus.com/questions/ 📘Get The OCD Healing Journey Book Today: https://markdejesus.com/the-ocd-healing-journey-book/ ➡️Get a FREE eBook on the Father’s Love: https://bit.ly/3fGu6t3 ▶️Mark's resource library: https://markdejesus.com/topics/ 👉Support future videos: https://markdejesus.com/donate/ 🌎Join the Healing and Freedom Community: https://markdejesus.com/community 📚Mark's books: https://markdejesus.com/books-by-mark-dejesus/ Music Provided by Epidemic Sound: https://share.epidemicsound.com/73m02k and Audiio: https://ref.audiio.com/3c99d6zk Mark's Podcast and Video Equipment: https://markdejesus.com/equipment/ Disclaimer: The content published is for informational purposes. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is purely educational in nature. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read, heard or viewed in our material. The resources given are not designed to practice medicine or give professional medical advice, including, without limitation, medical direction concerning someone's medical and mental health. Any resources given are not to be considered complete and does not cover all issues related to mental and physical health. In addition, any information given should not replace consultation with your doctor or any other mental health providers and/or specialists. 0:00 Intro 2:05 How To Find Freedom 9:05 Mark's Book Update 11:34 Why Won't God Just Change My Thoughts? 26:05 How To Deal With A "Just Get Over It" Mentality From Someone 38:50 How to Stop Praying Compulsively 40:50 Our Time With Max and His Birthday 44:50 Religious OCD & Lent 51:35 Negativity Fasts 55:50 Obsessive Over Trusting Pastors & Teachers Content 1:12:55 Fighting With Being Frustrated With The Lord's Timing 1:32:30 Dealing With Unanswered Prayers 1:45:50 Obsessiveness About Having God Tell Me To Do Something